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Once Again…. December 27, 2008

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Yup, bags are getting packed, tickets have come so it does mean that I am leaving once again. And once again, its for the same kind of tough session. I just hope that all goes well.Pray for me guys and wish me luck!

Wall-E, Movie Review…. December 27, 2008

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Wall-E  or bettrly said, Pixar’s Wall-E is among those few movies which I wanted to see so much but didn’t get time to see because of one reason or the other. I did read the review that Tim gave over his blog post about it but still, I wanted to experience it myself too. This time, when I was flying back to home, I found that the in-flight entertainment program  is showing it. Needless to say that I didn’t let the opportunity slip out of my hands. So I did watch Wall-E or Hal’s love story with Eva and here is my take over what I felt about it?
If I can give a single word review, I shall say , EXCELLENT! I am not sure that how much you are into animations/cartoons but I am totally hooked up to them. If there is a very good animation combined with an excellent story , I guess, that’s the best combo to get and wall-e is exactly the same. Pixar animation studios have done the best of their work I must say with it. The graphics are by far the best which I have seen up till now. Hal, is such a nice and cute robot which has a heart(or chip) like a human, who feels, understands, laughs. cries and most of all, know what is love? If you have ever loved some one and have gone beyond the very limits of yourself, you will be able to relate to Hal immediately. How he leaves planet earth clinging over a space shuttle , just because his love , Eva is in it, that’s what a lover does when he climbs mountains, travels far across oceans and goes to see his love despite all odds, all of the problems that may come on the way. If you have woken up in the nights thinking about your love’s health, happiness, you would be able to understand the care that Hal shows when he gives shadow to his love in summer or an umbrella in rain. And finally, if you have the guts to let your life , yourself go for the sake of your love, you would truly appreciate Hal’s attempt to save his love from being arrested and suffering the pain from that.
Its an amazing movie that’s all I can say. I agree with Tim’s point that the 2nd half is more like a traditional cartoon movie. If that were made a little more near to human kind of, it would have been the best! But still. I guess the makers knew about it and may be that had chosen to do so as its primarily a kid’s movie( who wants to grow up, not me ūüėČ ) so it kinds of fits there. But overall, its among the best movies that I have seen so far and I am sure , I am going to get its dvd now and will keep it with me.
One last thing which did strike me while watching the end of the movie , was that some times, people don’t care about their love and his/her feelings. They simply don’t bother are too busy in their tasks only to realize after so long( and so late probably) what that person did for them? At times, its too late to know it and regret for it. Its the same what happens with Eva, lady love of Hal too. She doesn’t care about Hal’s emotions firstly and when she realizes all of it, Hal is almost dead. Now he was a robot so changing a few chips here and there did make him alive but that’s not the case with humans. God doesn’t replace their chips and gives them a 2nd chance. He just takes them away. So I guess that wouldn’t be appropriate if I won’t say this that if you have some one who loves you and you don’t bother, don’t care about him/her, his/her emotions, do give  a 2nd thought about what you are doing right now and stop it because , it may happen that after some time when you would eventually realize your mistake, you would be able to just regret but not doing anything else.  Its not everyday that one is able to find a heart who loves him/her truly and madly!

Back, For 2 Days…. December 26, 2008

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I got back home today morning from  a spine chilling session that I did. As I mentioned in the last post, the session was among the toughest of almost all which I have taken so far. The guys were amazing and there were some very interesting discussions that did happen at times. As I always take that as my take-away back to home from a session, so in a way, it was very much beneficial for me. I am hopeful that I was able to satisfy the guys some what and their expectations were met. Well, all had a smiling face so I guess I did achieve it ;-).
I mentioned “for 2 days” in the title. Yes , just today when I got back home, I got a news that I am going to the same place again and guess what, I shall be there on new year eve as well. Now I certainly don’t mind working but who would have thought to organize a session on a new year eve? That’s like too much of work isn’t it? When the entire world is going to welcome new year, what I shall be doing, trying to discuss some concepts about Oracle works, wow that doesn’t so nice does it? I was like , WHAT ON NEW YEAR EVE! But I don’t control stuff so I guess I have to go in anyways. Again this isn’t going to be a joy ride but a roller coaster ride, so fingers are crossed, let’s see what happens!
Despite that I shall be traveling on a party night, there is so much of cold and I certainly , am not interested doing travels in this chilled weather. Besides the fact that the cold outside makes movement a real tough task to do, there are other issues as well. The first and foremost is, cancellation of flights due to bad weather. Yeah that happens a lot in this time of the year and I tasted it first hand just yesterday when I had my original booking canceled and I was given  an another carrier itself to take me back home. Well now, certainly I shouldn’t be complaining much as I did make it back to home but seeing this happening is not a very good sign for future travels. Hope that my flights will fly and will fly safely without getting lost(and making me lost along with them) in this foggy season :-).

Travel Update…. December 24, 2008

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I am still here , in my travel doing my session. As I said in my last post, this is going to be among the toughest sessions that I would ever take and indeed its getting as true as it can be. No doubt, guys are really good and so is the discussion that we are doing daily. To meet the expectations of the guys, I need to do a lot of work every night after I am done for the day. No doubt, this is helping me too as its increasing my little knowledge too.
I normal don’t say it but this time, I am hating the food that I am getting in my hotel. I have been eating just because I have to and I am not complaining just because, I won’t be staying here for long. But if god forbid, I need to live here with these people who are cooking my food, they will experience first hand what’s called, criticism.
Tomorrow one more disaster is waiting for me, again related to my travel. About that, after a bit while. Its time for me to sleep(did I mention I am having fever?) ;-).

Travelling Tomorrow…. December 20, 2008

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Its been almost a month that I am at home. There are some problems on the personal front so I had to stay back. Though they are not over yet but still, I need to travel for a very tough assignment. Probably its going to be the toughest among all that I have taken so far. I don’t know what’s going to happen? All I am doing is hoping that everything would go fine. Let’s see what happens? Wish me luck and pray for me guys, I really need it!

A Proud Moment, 7th International Kabaddi Cup At Ludhiana…. December 20, 2008

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Due to my job, I have traveled across India and Asia (and still doing). I did read some where that this world is a book and those who have not traveled, have read just one page. I completely agree to it. I have learned so much from my travels, have seen the entire India and its cultures. Every culture is good in its own way and as they all belong to India, they are all respectable for me. I am a Punjabi and belong to Punjab. Because of this, Punjab holds a very special place in my heart and being a Punjabi is the most proud feeling for me.
Punjab is known for everything of it, be it food, culture, love, literature, sports,¬†bravery, you name it! In sports, besides the sports being played currently, there are many which are only played in Punjab and by Punjabi’s across the world. They are a part of our culture. Kabaddi¬†is one such sport whose history is as old and rich as Punjab is. There is a very famous proverb that anyone can play any game but Kabaddi can be played by only those who have got real strength and believe me,its word to word true! The generation to which¬†I belong, the current one is some how going away from all this and is becoming fond of so called “night-life”. In this time, any event which links us back to our roots, our culture is a most welcomed event, at least for me if for none else! Kabaddi is getting extremely popular now and is being played not only in India but internationally also. Kabaddi organization¬†is hosting kabaddi tournaments every part of this globe with whole hearted support of International Kabaddi Federation. One such event is organized today today from 20-21st of December. It is 7th International Kabaddi tournament going on at¬† city’s sports stadium. I saw today’s telecast live at my home for the whole day. I wanted to go and see it live but because of my travel, I had to finish some tasks so I had to come back home. But nonetheless, I did enjoy that much which words are not able to reflect. The proverb that I mentioned few lines above, stands completely true. Its¬†a great feeling that city got a chance to organize one such event where teams from entire glove have come and are participating. I shall be traveling tomorrow and I shall miss the grand finale which will be happening tomorrow when not only the semi-finals and finals of the tournament will be played but there will be live performance by the legendary¬†Punjabi’s singer, the king of all, Gurdas Maan. If you have heard about Punjab and have not heard about Gurdas Maan , his singing, you haven’t heard anything at all. He will be performing live tomorrow. I shall miss watching him performing alive but still, its a great day and moment for me and my city. Am I happy, surely I am!
For those who have never seen any match of Kabaddi and don’t know what it is, I am putting here one video which is a tribute to all the legends of this game. There is a song which is playing in the back end of video. Its in Punjabi but unlike other videos which I put, I won’t be translating it. The reason is that I want you to watch the video and enjoy the game. But, if you would be really interested in understanding the lyrics of the song being played, let me know and I shall update the post with the lyrics and its translation. Enjoy the video,

An Amazing Voice, Gurdip Singh…. December 18, 2008

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Those who know me, they are aware about this fact that I listen to a lot of music. And 90% of that is mostly , Punjabi music. Though there are legends in Punjabi music who are incomparable with anyone else in the galaxy, there are some whose names are not known to many but they are the maestros of soulful music. Gurdip Singh is among those few names whose singing is a divine one. I can’t recall since how many years I am listening to his songs. He has only released two albums so far but both are like milestones. If you really love good poetry and fond of deep, mystic voice, you must listen to his songs, you will be delighted, trust my words.
Here is a link to all the albums of Gurdip Singh. The first one is called Hook,
And the second one is, Ishq Aakhda-e Tera,
I am putting over here the title song from the 2nd album, Ishq Aakhda-e Tera. . This is known as one of the finest songs in Punjabi music. Luckily some one did upload it over Youtube also( and God bless him for doing so), so here is the link to that one.
Its not the original video though. This song did get a real video years after it was released. But I am not able to find it anywhere. I am putting the uploaded version here also so that you can listen it here only,

And here are the lyrics in Punjabi. I shall translate it in a while,
Ishq aakhda e tera,kakh rehan v nai dena,
Chup rehan v nai dena te kujh kehan v nai dena!
Pehle halle tera chain te karar luttna,
Teri shokhi , haar te shingar luttna!
Teri neend,teri akh da khumar luttna!
Tainu lutt k jamane kol baihan v nai dena!
Ishq aakhda e tera kakh….
Aapo apna naseeb hunda sajna juda,
Ishq jarre jarre vich , eh na kise ton juda!
Sab darde khuda ton,is ton darda khuda!
Ehne jhalle appri ch kakh rehan v nai dena!
Ishq aakhda e tera kakh….
Jhalla ho k j tun pyar wali hadd langh lain,
Ape apne tun khoon nal hath rang lain!
Je tun akk k vichhode kol maut mang lain,
Maut aaun v nai deni, jiunda rehan v nai dena!
Ishq aakhda e tera, kakh rehan v nai dena!
And here is the meaning of it in English,
Love,love, love….
Your love is saying, it won’t let anything be with me!
Neither it will let me be quiete , nor it will allow me to speak!
In the first place, it will steal the happiness, joy and satisfaction from you,
Than it will steal your naughtiness, your beauty!
It will take away your sleep, the charm in your eyes!
It will take away all this , still it will not allow you to sit with this world!
Your love is saying….
Oh dear, every one has a different fate written for him,
Love is everywhere, its not seperated from anyone!
Every one fears from God, but God himself fears from it!
This love won’t let anything spare in your hut!
Your love is saying….
If you will get mad and will cross limits of love,
If you will color your hands with your own blood!
If you will get frustrated and will beg for death from the separation,
It won’t give death you but it won’t let you be alive even!
Your love is saying, it won’t let anything be with me!
Neither it will let me be quiete , nor it will allow me to speak!
Here are few lines written in Punjabi. I have read these so many times. I have read long back but they just go along so well with the above song,
Sacha Pyaar Na Yaara Paa Lavi,
Sukh Chain Sab Tera Lutt Jauga,
Vich Pyar De Jad Tainu Satt Laggu,
Khuli Hawa Wich V Dum Tera Ghut Jauga. . . .
And here is the meaning of them,
Don’t fall in love,
You will lose your happiness and joys completely!
When you will get hurt in love,
You will lose breaths even in open air!
I won’t be adding anything extra neither to the song nor to these lines. Still I shall say that love is not some thing from which one should fear. Love is not a deadly thing, its the most beautiful gift in this world. But every great thing comes with great dangers, great risks and so is true with love too. You will get love but on the cost of yourself. You will find the happiness but after giving away of your own. If you are not ready to give up you for someone else, you are not ready for falling in love and if you are in love but you think about your self more than that someone special, you are not worthy of being in love! Love is the name of giving away , not to ask for, love is the name of losing everything but still feel contended. Love is to die for some one without even thinking for a moment , not to kill some one else for your own selfishness.As I said so many times before, its not a road full of roses but an ocean of fire and you have to swim through it to get to the other end!

One More “Connect”? December 17, 2008

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Since the time, Google has announced Google Friend Connect, it seems every one is trying to get into the “connect bandwagon”. Now Facebook is also having a Facebook Connect. I some times, wonder where all this will end? This is like a cat-mouse kind of thing, he did this  ,now its my turn. I really wonder what kind of productivity all this will bring to an end user’s web experience? Now, just for the record, I am not at all against any social networking. It can be confirmed from the numerous social network sites whose I am a member. But there is a limit to everything and there are certainly some ethics. Doing this kind of “copying” of a feature which one has already introduced, I don’t know what’s so good about it and here, I don’t care who brought the feature first, what matters is that the copy has been done and that’s some thing which I can’t understand.

Make Way People, AristaDBA Is Here…. December 14, 2008

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Alright, so the time has come to reveal some secrets. I wanted to have my own website from a LONG time. I have made some already which you can see in the links over the right hand side. Though they are all very close to my heart and I made them all with great passion and put lots of efforts in making all of them, there was still one small hitch and that was that these all were free domains. Yup, there is no issue in this but you know, when some thing comes as free, people (I mean this world) don’t give it much of the importance. So despite that I have some sites of my own, there was still an unfulfilled dream and that was to have a fully owned website of mine!
Those who know me well,they are aware about the fact that when I decide some thing,its actually very rare that I would change my decisions. So keeping that tradition alive, I did buy a domain name. I spent whole 3 days to search for the name. And than I decided to use Arista as one. Arista is a Greek word which means, the best! Well, I had to mix this name with something related to what I do, needless to say, I added DBA to it and Voila, we get the AristaDBA. The best dba,sounds perfect isn’t it? To be honest, I am not the best, but yes this name does push me to be one some day so I liked it and decided to use this as the name of my site!
Next (and the toughest) part was to design an actual website around this name now. And this proved to be more tough than I imagined. I am an Oracle professional, not a web developer. Okay , I did a course long time back in web technologies but still, our main focus was Java and Oracle in that. We or I should say, I didn’t choose that course to be a web developer, neither I did become one after doing that. So here I was, trying to figure out ways to make up some pages to put over my website. The simplest looking part proved to be the toughest one. Though I did design the page content(it wasn’t tough as I had it over my other sites) but I was not able to give them a proper face, a proper outlook. I tried to learn Cascading Style Sheets(CSS). It wasn’t tough to learn( it never is) but it was really hard to put it to work! I tried couple of designs and finally made up a working version of my site using CSS. It was out over for some time but it didn’t appeal to me even, let alone the idea of someone else. As like always, that doesn’t stay which I don’t like. CSS had to leave but before that, I needed some thing else to make up my site.
Enter Joomla!
Joomla is a content management system. Though its not so easy too but its still FAR easier than mucking around with hundreds of line of CSS and HTML code. After learning a few tips and tricks of it, I was able to make up a final version of my website and finally, AristaDBA.com got a life. I had to choose couple of add-ons for the site as well. Good news was that using Joomla!, its easy to add some extensions to your site. Using some of those, some from Google, final cut of the site got ready. So today, I am proud to introduce to all of you, AristaDBA.com, personal , fully owned website of mine!
There isn’t much content over the site at the moment. But I shall be adding more stuff over the period of time. There are some plugins from Google to put your comments,to join my site as a friend. I have tried to use Google Analytics also this time. I am not sure how good/bad it is but for the time being, I am using it and I am not disappointed from it :-). There is one more important bit over the site and that is , Creative Commons license which makes the legal stipulation for anyone to not to copy any line from my site or any related link from it over the web without my permission and proper attribution to me else, he/she will be calling legal issues for himself! That was in my mind from day one when this whole idea came to my mind.
On the whole, I am happy with what has come out so far! This was a long time cherished dream and I am happy to see it becoming a reality. So far , those few who saw it being made, they gave good remarks about it. I am hopeful to hear more from all who would visit it later some time in future. Needless to say that both good/bad comments would help me in improving it. Well that all will take time I guess, but at this moment, it looks okay to me,if not perfect! Atleast, I have a website to call of my own, that alone is a good thing :-)! I hope that you would visit it and would like it as well. Do let me know your comments about it, both good, bad either over here or at contact me page of the site. As always, I am all ears for the comments/suggestions of yours.

All About Aquarius Man By Linda Goodman-Part 2…. December 14, 2008

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This is the second part of the series where Linda Goodman talks about Aquarians or in other words , about me :-). The last post, was about how to reckognise Aquarians! This one deals with the facts about an Aqua Man, surely enough that’s me! This is the last part. There are other parts like about an Aqua child, boss, woman and so on but I guess, its too much for me to put all here. These two , the one that you are going to read now and the last which I have posted already, these two are enough as far I am concerned. So I won’t be putting more about this (atleast not from the same writer) here. Unlikely the last  post, I won’t be doing an analysis of this one. There are some things which should remain hidden and mysterious. So I am leaving this part undisclosed here. If you know me, you would be able to pick up the right notes about me from here. If you don’t know me yet, well as its said some where in this page, you need to solve the puzzle yourself. Have a read,
All this time the Guard -was looking at her,
first through a telescope,
then through a microscope,
and then through an opera-glass.
At last he said, “You’re traveling the wrong way,”
and shut up the window
To wade bravely smack dab into the center of the problem, don’t expect an Aquarian male to behave the way people in love are supposed to behave. If you do, you’re in
for quite a jolt, maybe even a series of jolts. When it comes to friendship, he’s all you could ask for in a pal or a confidant. Love? Well, as an Aquarian I once knew said, “Anybody can have a girl. But love is something else again.” That was an astute observation. It’s “something else,” all right, with Aquarians.
It’s when he acts as though he doesn’t like you that he’s close to being hooked, and the reason is elementary- simple logic. The Aquarian water bearer likes everybody.
Everyone is his friend. He’ll even refer to his worst enemy as “my friend.” So it means something when he says he doesn’t like someone. Just what it means may take some study. The various nuances can be complicated.
 An Aquarian man doesn’t want to reveal his true feelings, in spite of his favorite pastime of penetrating the feelings of others. His own reactions and motives are complex, and he intends to keep them that way for the pure pleasure of fooling you. Many strange experiences will come to this man, through both love and friendship, and he’ll scrutinize each one avidly. Until you get him to the altar, you’re just another experience, another experiment, hard as that may be to take. Don’t sniffle. He can be tricked, for all his caution. But before you start tricking him, you’d better try to understand how to cope with his unique outlook about people.   He’s a group man, and teamwork comes naturally to him. Aquarius understands the fair play rules of sports as if he had invented them, and he carries these rules into his personal relationships. His interests are scattered all over the place. That’s because his love of people is so impersonal; he gives a certain value to everyone he meets, while the rest of us save such efforts for only the very special people in our lives. To an Aquarian, everyone is special. And I mean everyone. Even those he hasn’t met yet. Few Uranus men are either selfish or petty. When he does show those qualities, a gentle reminder that he’s being narrow-minded will bring him around. Aquarians just can’t stand to be called narrow-minded. 
 He responds to unusually high ideals, thanks to his rigid moral code (though you’d better understand that it’s his own code, which may not necessarily reflect or correspond to the one accepted by society in general). He’ll almost surely lead a life of change, controversy and unexpected events. Yet there will often be moments of perfect tranquility with him, impossible to find with any other Sun sign. Once he’s over the shock that he’s allowed himself to become interested in one woman above all of mankind, he can be an extremely considerate lover. The danger area is before he’s over the shock. Since he’s so accustomed to neglecting his own problems in the interest of the majority, hopefully some of this attitude will rub off on his love life.

Don’t count on it, though. The chances are just as good that he’ll suddenly realize he’s devoting his complete loyalty to you when there are all those other nameless faces out there who need him. Then he may lean over backwards to prove to himself that he hasn’t lost his love for his friends and the rest of humanity by being attached to just one person. Forever analyzing, the Aquarian man will frequently ask himself, “I wonder what she meant by that?” He won’t rest until he finds out either. A puzzle drives him simply wild and don’t be fooled by his nonchalance. When he senses something is hidden, he just won’t sleep at night until he’s unraveled the mystery and penetrated the veil. There’s always the possibility that he might be disappointed in what he finds, so make sure it’s worth discovering. If it isn’t, he’ll have no qualms about making it painfully evident-and off he’ll go to unravel a new veil. The girl who wants to land him eventually has first to intrigue him.
 An open book will never pique his curiosity. He’s attracted to closed pages, the more tightly closed, the better to arouse his detective instinct. When a female either ignores him or keeps her own counsel, in the beginning at least, his eyes will open” a little wider and hell get an alert expression, amazingly like that of a bloodhound on the scent of something missing.

Why is she so emotional? (You can be emotional, you see, as long as you don’t explain why.) Is she really so changeable or is it an act? Why does she wear all that perfume and make-up and such low-cut dresses, and then get insulted when those Leos and Sagittarians and Scorpios whistle at her in front of the drugstore? Does she want male advances or doesn’t she? Is she a puritan or promiscuous? What makes her tick? As he probes and questions and examines, the girl is at first flattered, naturally-but when she sees he’s just as intently curious about the waitress who just served them (not to mention the bus boy), she begins to cool somewhat. Feeling like an insect trapped under a scientist’s cold eye isn’t exactly calculated to cause the heart to flutter in any feminine bosom. So she finally drifts (or runs) away to a more fiery or earthy male, and the Aquarian sadly sighs for an instant or two before he begins his next romantic investigation. (If some new invention or unique idea hasn’t aroused his interest first. In which case the next female research project must wait.)

Aquarian men can be touchingly gentle and docile, but you’d better tie a bright blue electric string around your finger to remind you that his surface calmness is a mirage. So is his apparent pliability. He won’t tolerate an ounce of opportunism from a female. If he thinks he’s being exploited, that unpredictable Uranian charm can vanish so quickly you’ll think Cary Grant has turned into James Cagney, poised to throw a grapefruit-half in your face. The frightening thing is that an extremely upset Aquarian is perfectly capable of such shocking action. What’s even more frightening is that you may forgive him. Don’t. At least, not more than once. He admires a woman who holds her ground, if she’s not too masculine about it, and if she lets him fly hither and yon, unencumbered by mushy promises and tearful accusations. As for that grapefruit, it’s only fair to point out that Aquarians are
usually most gallant with the fair sex. But sometimes they can forget to distinguish between the sexes in the throes of excitement. Couple that with the Uranus unpredictability, and it does add up to a possible squirt of grapefruit juice in the eye.
There’s always an excellent possibility that an Aquarian will achieve some sort of prestige during his lifetime. If it’s only a trophy for stickball or a brass plaque for being the tallest man in Succatosh County he’s sure to be honored with some kind of recognition. It could be something as splendid as winning the Nobel Prize. Lots of Aquarians achieve such distinctions. (On the other hand, a large percentage of disturbed Aquarians are weekly visitors to a head shrinker. It may be kind of tricky to tell the difference. )
Some Uranus-ruled men have a fetish for cleanliness. You may bump into one who shrieks if anyone uses his towel or breathes on his oatmeal. Back of this is an almost neurotic fear of germs and illness. The Aquarian isn’t above letting his phobias trail over into his romantic life, when they can serve a purpose, though he may do so unconsciously. Don’t be surprised if he complains that he’s allergic to your eyeshadow and it makes him sneeze. Uranians have a way of developing allergies to things they’d rather avoid, and they can even fool the doctors, let alone innocent, unsuspecting girls.
He’s not the type to woo you with extravagant gestures. He’s as likely to pull up a dandelion and toss it at you as bring you an orchid. To be honest, more likely. He won’t present you with mink coats and diamonds. But life with him can still be glamorous, even without the mink. There’s the well-known story about Helen Hayes and her husband, Charles MacArthur. When they first met, he handed her a bowl of peanuts and said, “I wish they were emeralds.” Many years and many dollars later, he gave her a cluster of glittering emeralds with the remark, “I wish they were peanuts.” I don’t know if MacArthur was an Aquarian, but Uranus was certainly prominent in his natal chart. That’s exactly the kind of unexpected glory you’ll know with an Aquarian lover. Who needs mink?
Now let’s face the worst fact courageously. No flinching or wishful thinking. Here it is. Unlike Cancer, Capricorn, Leo and Libra, Aquarians don’t take to marriage like a baby takes to candy. To be truthful, most of them avoid it as long as it’s humanly possible. A rare Aquarian male will be enticed into a shower of shoes and rice at an early age, but it doesn’t happen often enough for the statistics to be encouraging. The way the impasse usually starts is that the Aquarian makes beautiful, wonderful, glorious friendship the basis of the love. (Easier to slide away from later, my dear.) They choose a girl who’s also a chum, and who can keep up with the Aquarian interests, including Mickey Mantle’s batting average, crossword puzzles, Arabian horses, fireflies on the Mississippi and the Dead Sea Scrolls. Why? That’s easy. With so much to talk about, there’s less time for lovemaking, which can get him
seriously involved and committed. His ideal is the female who is his friend, and who doesn’t make heavy emotional demands on him. Where do we go from here? Nowhere, usually.
Aquarian men find it difficult to relax in physical expressions of love. That first goodnight kiss may be a long time materializing. Admittedly, it’s often well worth waiting for, and the suspense makes it even more special. But he’ll cling to the illusion that he’s involved in a nice, safe platonic friendship long after such a palsy-walsy relationship has become impossible for you. Even after he’s mustered the courage to say “I love you,” he’ll avoid the issue of marriage with every excuse in the book. When those run out, he can think up some
pretty imaginative new ones. He’ll patiently explain that he can’t support you in the manner you deserve, his parents need him at home, or he’s not good enough for you. If that doesn’t work, he’ll claim that the future is too uncertain, what with the threats of nuclear destruction and all. What if his boss sends him to Alaska next year? You might die of pneumonia up there, and he would be grief-stricken the rest of his life. You think he can’t top that? One Aquarian man I know was engaged for twelve years to a girl he wouldn’t marry because “she would have to sacrifice a great career on Broadway.” The fact that the girl had never set foot on a stage in her life was beside the point. He thought she had talent. Someday, a producer might just discover her. Then how would she feel if he had held her back by marrying her? Worse yet, how would he feel? Guilty. Just plain selfish and guilty. It’s not
surprising that this poor female finally escaped to a more positive rival.
But all is not lost. Though it’s true that most Aquarians wed late, they do eventually wed-usually. It normally happens after the last bachelor friend has sailed away to a Bermuda honeymoon, and the Aquarian wakes up to realize that here is a mystery other people have solved that he hasn’t even investigated. Naturally, he- can’t stand that, so pop goes the proposal! Suddenly, of course.- Uranus, you know.
In the early stages, you may think he needs a lesson and decide to let him think he’s lost you to a more aggressive suitor. Let me warn you that you’re likely to stay lost. Your broken-hearted Uranian is not nearly as apt to come charging after you with the fire of possession in his eye as he is to shed a couple of quiet tears and say, “Well, I guess the best man won.” He’ll resign himself to a life without you with insulting ease. He’s even liable to ask the unbearable question, “Can’t we still be friends?” If you say no emphatically, he’ll probably just shrug dejectedly and slowly walk away. If you say yes-well, you’re right back where you started-friends.
Jealousy isn’t his cup of eggnog. He’ll trust you until you show him you can’t be trusted. Not because he’s trusting by nature, but because his analytical dissection has already satisfied him about your character. Unless there are marked afflictions in his natal chart, he’s not capable of unfounded suspicion and possessiveness. If he does have a rare stab of jealousy, you’ll never know it if he can help it. He will rarely, if ever, be physically unfaithful himself, mostly because the whole subject of sex, though it’s interesting, doesn’t consume him. An occasional Aquarian may spend a great deal of time intensely pondering sex, but if you know one of these, you can safely assume there’s a heavy Scorpio influence in his natal chart. (And chances are even this type won’t pursue it actively and openly.)
Once an Aquarian has chosen a mate, he figures he can concentrate on more important things. He can relax and investigate the boy-giri or man-woman relationship at his own leisure in his own private laboratory (which isn’t a bad possibility for its eventual chance of success when you stop to think about it). Uranian sex is part of a larger image or ideal. Should a temptation to engage in illicit romance arise (illicit in his eyes, that is), he’ll usually end the affair abruptly, though it may hurt him deeply, rather than continue what he considers to be a
dishonest relationship. The situation that made him feel -guilty could be almost anything, from the disapproval of your parents or conflicting religions to an old boy friend not completely discarded, a promise he made to himself at the age of eight, or something he once read in a book. But whatever it is, it will somehow have to be adjusted and resolved before he’ll ever renew the closeness, even if the love is as fated as that of Victoria and Albert. The Aquarian will always let his heart break silently, lest his friends hear and ask questions.
He’s capable of waiting undl he’s ninety to claim you, even if you feel that’s a bit long to wait for consummation. The worst of it is that hell never give a reason for the break. That’s for him to know and you to find out. He’ll perversely let you think it was just a fantasy from the beginning, and hold back the real truth that it was genuine for some hazy future day of forgiveness and reconciliation. It can be pretty cruel, but that’s the way he plays the game.
Your only comfort is the knowledge that he’s suffering in his own way, too. How will you know that? Read “How to Recognize Aquarius” again. He has his subtle ways of telegraphing his feelings, and they can be enormously frustrating-especially when his unique, private communication signals a green go light while he publicly keeps holding out a red stop light until he’s ready to switch. It can make for some nasty romantic traffic snarls. It’s hard on the pedestrian, but he’s in the driver’s seat, so there’s not a lot you can do-except perhaps think up another mystery to tempt him with, or maybe shake him a little with some smashing success to make him curious to talk with you again-like being the first woman to orbit Venus.
Not that such a feat will change his feelings. If he really loves you, he’ll love you even if you don’t orbit any farther than to the comer delicatessen, but it might interfere with his fixed strategy. You may gather from all this that a Uranus man can be pretty stubborn when it comes to love. You would be so right. His fixity in affectionate matters can drive you straight into the booby hatch or drive you to someone else in desperation. That’s a big fat waste of time. He’s not jealous, remember? Or he won’t show it if he is. Besides, with his darned Uranian intuition, he’ll know it’s all an act. Because he knows what makes you tick. Don’t forget, he studied you for a long time. About the only thing you can do is hope you’ll still be
attractive at ninety or else start practicing those Venus orbits.
Putting the shoe on the other foot, an Aquarian can arouse a heap of possessiveness in you when the tables are turned. Don’t let it throw you off balance. Thanks to the everlasting Uranus proclivity for friendship, whenever and wherever he finds it, there may be times when you won’t know where he is, even after you’re married and you should. Just tell yourself that, no matter how late he sits up with a friend, it’s only his normal curiosity at work, his never-ending interest in people. If the friend is a woman, pretend you didn’t notice. In all honesty, he most likely didn’t. You can expect the truth when you ask him a direct question. But if you doubt him and ask again, he’ll figure you don’t want the truth. To punish you, he’ll make up the wildest story he can dream up (and he can dream up some pretty wild ones). You may regret your suspicions when you spend a few hours in abject misery wondering if he really did tell that redhead she was gorgeous. (That’s after he told you he didn’t even remember talking to her and you said, “Ha! I just bet you don’t remember.”) He
honestly didn’t, but you asked for details, so he gladly obliged with some purely imaginary ones to teach you a lesson. You’ll learn fast.
Don’t be hurt when he’s in one of his solitary moods and prefers to be alone with his silent dreams. He’ll return to share them with you, all the more warm and tender for his spiritual retreat and anything that warms him up should definitely be encouraged. He may not be the best breadwinner around, but he’s capable of inventing something beneficial to the world or being the first man to land on Mars. He’ll feel right at home there, too. There’s always a surprise just around the comer with an Aquarian husband, even when the budget is shaky. Naturally, there are a few Uranian men who are wealthy, even millionaires, but a high income bracket is seldom a burning ambition. All the rich Aquarians you see probably stumbled on it. It’s certain they didn’t greedily grasp for it. If he has a fat bank book, the chances are it gained weight while he was attempting to improve some product or idea for the good of
humanity in general-or he’s saved it to support his eccentric old age. Who knows? He might want to take a trip in a time machine someday, and he wants to be sure to have the fare. Most of the time he’ll be reasonable about money, but save when you can, and don’t run up charge accounts. He’ll never recover from sheer extravagance on your part. Sometimes he can surprise you with a burst of generosity, but he won’t go overboard, unless he has an Aries, Leo, Sagittarius or Pisces ascendant. Even then, he won’t be a big butter and egg man.
The children will find him the greatest listener on the block. He’ll be fascinated at the perfect breath control of the wolf when he blew down the three little pigs’ pad- and curious about how the old witch pickled the poisoned apple that put the whammy on Snow White. A small boy’s trouble learning how to strike a home run and a little girl’s tears over a broken doll are simply the problems of a couple of pals in trouble to an Aquarian father. He’s a whiz at complicated arithmetic questions, too.
Don’t let your career make you neglect to feed him or sew on his buttons. Don’t encourage your girl friends to camp on his couch or tie up the telephone for hours, and don’t get engrossed in TV or a novel when he wants you to find his old soft ball in the attic or pull a splinter out of his finger. He married you for several reasons. Though romance may play its part, the most important reason was to have you around-so he would always have someone to mash his baked potato, cross-stitch his buttonholes, find his lost articles and operate on an occasional splinter. He won’t cotton to your letting television, reading or female chums interfere with those duties. His idea of a good wife and mother is quite simple: a woman who keeps at it almost constantly. Even the more liberal Aquarian husbands will frown on a glamorous gadabout. But you won’t mind it too much. He’s so full of interesting
surprises himself you won’t need soap operas, women’s magazines and tete-a-tetes with girl friends to keep your mind and emotions challenged. (He may be about all the challenge you can take.) You can always catch up on the female gossip and such when he’s engrossed in some new project and gets a little absent-minded about what you’re doing. But just be sure to be there when he has a sore finger, because he can be a real sorehead when he’s neglected.

Strangely, since he’s so realistic about most things,, the Aquarian will never forget his first love. (Not the first date, but the first girl who ever gave him a rainbow. There’s a difference.) Uranians frequently marry childhood sweethearts years later,or cling to a faded illusion. An Aquarian can usually describe his first love in detail, which can be annoying to a wife. The solution is to be that first love. You may have to wait a long time to wear orange blossoms, but at least you won’t be replaced by a ghost. Who else could turn peanuts into emeralds or vice versa, never mind a little grapefruit juice in the eye? Despite his general romantic clumsiness, he can come up with sudden phrases which could only have been invented by the angels. He can forget your wedding anniversary, but he’ll bring you violets in January. Christmas? Who says it has to be on December 25th? It can be any dme you want it to be. He
may go for days or weeks or months without a single word of romance or affection. Then some morning while you’re slicing his blueberry pie, he’ll look deep into your eyes and ask gently, “Do you know how beautiful you are?” There will be something about the way he says it that will make your knees weak.
Jingle bells on the seashore, birthdays at dawn. Valentine’s Day on Halloween, rainbows at midnight. Pin a red heart on an orange pumpkin, roll Easter eggs in the snow, light the candles on the cake on top of a ferris wheel- you’re in love with an Aquarian, didn’t you know? I wish you a Frank Merriwell ending. But be careful. You can get lost out there in Wonderland.
Do let me know how much you think is true and what’s not?
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